f parents could have their way, they would take control of their children’s lives forever. They want them to make the right decisions, get into the right schools, meet the right people, have the right (i.e. similar to their own) values. But what parents need to know is in order to stay relevant in their children’s lives, they need to relinquish some of that control they so greatly crave.
“Research shows that spanking corrects misbehavior. But it also shows that spanking does not work better than other modes of correction, such as time out, explaining, and depriving a child of privileges. Moreover, the research clearly shows that the gains from spanking come at a big cost. These include weakening the tie between children and parents and increasing the probability that the child will hit other children and their parents, and as adults, hit a dating or marital partner. Spanking also slows down mental development and lowers the probability of a child doing well in school,” Straus says.
No matter what your child’s character, there’s plenty of evidence that mindfulness is a powerful tool that can better many aspects of his or her life. Here are some of the biggest benefits of mindfulness, according to research:
When it comes to building our child’s self-belief and esteem, telling and showing them that we love them as often as possible makes a big difference, no matter what age they are, he says. Even on difficult days or after a disagreement, when we might not feel particularly loving, it is most important to reconnect with our love for them and to express it.
Although previous work has shown that mothers’ parenting influences the development of child executive function (EF; important self-control skills developed during the preschool years), the role of fathers’ parenting has not been thoroughly investigated.
Nothing is more precious to me than the discussions I have with my 19-year-old daughter. I consider her frequent use of me as a sounding board my crowning achievement as a parent (yep, I’m taking full credit for this one). After keeping so many secrets from my own mother, this element of our relationship has been a tremendous surprise and immensely flattering. Here’s what I believe has made it possible:
Have you ever wondered why kids learn new languages so quickly? Or whether it’s worth serenading your pregnant belly with classical music? Or how much stress is too much for your child to handle? Science has answers, and they may surprise you. Here are three things you probably didn’t know about your kid’s gray matter – and how to capitalize on its unique composition.
Being a parent also means being a expert in handling the multiple behavioral phases our kids go through. We are super-patient with their demands, we negotiate with them through tantrums and answer their ton of questions. But there are times when our young child’s nagging, demanding and tantrum-throwing do get to us.